Audiobooks by Beverly Engel

Put Your Past in the Past: Why You May Be Reenacting Your Trauma, and How to Stop

"Stop repeating your past, and find lasting healing for the future. Millions of us are desperately trying to rewrite our past by unconsciously repeating it—unknowingly reenacting the traumatic events in our lives in an effort to complete unfinished business or undo what was done to us. These unconscious efforts to undo trauma only bring more pain, more disappointment, and more psychological damage. Reenactments can take the form of self-destructive behavior, unhealthy decisions, choosing the wrong partners, getting stuck in repetitive emotional cycles, or sabotaging chances at success. Understanding and eliminating these reenactments is an essential part of the healing process. Unfortunately, this topic hasn't been addressed enough by psychotherapists and other mental health professionals. In Put Your Past in the Past, renowned psychotherapist Beverly Engel offers the first accessible and comprehensive book on emotional reenactments. First, the book will help readers make their unsuccessful efforts to repair their past more conscious. Next, Engel offers powerful strategies to help readers truly heal their past, not by unwittingly repeating it, but by attending to their original wounds, and embracing self-compassion. Unless we process past traumas, we can't heal them. Put Your Past in the Past will help you face your past head-on to find true and lasting wholeness. 'For decades Beverly Engel has been an important source of understanding, support, and healing for many survivors. This book will, no doubt, be a valuable addition to the recovery literature, and will inspire its readers in their recovery.'—Mike Lew, author of Victims No Longer"

Beverly Engel (Author), Nan McNamara (Narrator)

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The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing, 2nd Edition

"In the second edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing, internationally recognized therapist Beverly Engel walks listeners through a proven program designed to help then get to the core of their unhealthy behavior patterns. This book was written specifically for two types of couples—those who mutually abuse each other and those with abusive partners who are willing to honestly look at themselves to and make the necessary changes to stop abusing. Engel focuses on both the abused person and the abuser, offering non-judgmental advice to both groups. She offers effective strategies, techniques, and information to end abusive behaviors, including: ● Why some people are attracted to abusive people and vice versa ● Patterns created from childhood neglect and abuse and how to break them ● Determining if you or your partner suffers from a personality disorder ● How to decide whether to continue the relationship or end it The Emotionally Abusive Relationship is essential for those involved in unhealthy relationships or who have loved ones trapped in an emotionally abusive situation."

Beverly Engel (Author), Tanya Eby (Narrator)

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When Your Partner Has an Addiction: How Compassion Can Transform Your Relationship (and Heal You Bot

"We've been told that staying with a partner who struggles with addiction—whether it be with drugs, alcohol, or addictive behaviors—means that we're enabling their destructive behavior. That wanting to help them means we're codependent, and that the best thing for both of us is to walk away from the relationship entirely. But is that true? Together, addiction activist and bestselling author Christopher Kennedy Lawford and psychotherapist Beverly Engel, MFT, take a fresh look at addiction and codependency—the latest research on what causes them and what the two have in common. Rather than treat addiction or codependency as disease or weakness, When Your Partner Has an Addiction honors the trauma and shame that often lie at their source and shows you how to use your love to combat that shame, allowing you to more effectively support your partner and heal yourself. The research proves that, while you cannot 'fix' your partner, you can have a positive impact on their recovery. Whether you suffer from codependency, and whether your partner is already in recovery, When Your Partner Has an Addiction provides you with proven techniques and strategies to drastically improve your relationship and help get your partner the help he needs—without leaving and while taking care of yourself in the process."

Beverly Engel, Christopher Kennedy Lawford (Author), Lee Goettl (Narrator)

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The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- and Start Standing Up for Yourself

"In this groundbreaking book, Engel helps women confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep them stuck in their Nice Girl act while replacing them with healthier, more empowering ones. CONTENTS PART I. STRONG WOMEN ARENT NICE Chapter 1: The High Price of Being Too Nice: The 7 Types of Nice Girls Chapter 2: How Did We Get So Nice? Chapter 3: The Ten False Beliefs That Set Women Up to Be Used and Abused PART II. FROM FALSE BELIEFS TO EMPOWERING BELIEFS Chapter 4: Stop Putting Others Needs and Feelings Ahead of Your Own Chapter 5: Stop Believing that Being Nice Will Protect You Chapter 6: Stop Worrying About What Other People Think of You Chapter 7: Stop Trying to Be Perfect Chapter 8: Stop Being Gullible and Naïve Chapter 9: Start Standing Up For Your Rights Chapter 10: Start Expressing Your Anger Chapter 11: Learn to Handle Conflict Chapter 12: Start Facing the Truth About People Chapter 13: Start Supporting and Protecting Yourself PART III. FROM NICE GIRLS TO STRONG WOMEN Chapter 14: The Four Cs: Confidence, Competence, Conviction, and Courage References Index "

Beverly Engel (Author), Emily Durante (Narrator)

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The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

Beverly Engel (Author), Deanna Hurst (Narrator)

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Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner

Beverly Engel (Author), Vanessa Hart (Narrator)

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Loving Him without Losing You: How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself

"Are you a Disappearing Woman? Do you frequently find yourself putting your lover's needs ahead of your own? Do you tend to lose yourself in your romantic relationships? Have you ever neglected your career, your friends, or even your health while in the midst of a love affair? Now, in this landmark book, Beverly Engel examines the intricate reasons why so many women submerge themselves in their relationships with men—and offers a straightforward, empowering program that you can use to free yourself from the powerful grip of this all-too-common problem and rediscover yourself as a Woman of Substance."

Beverly Engel (Author), Lessa Lamb (Narrator)

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It Wasn't Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Comp

"Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it’s important for you to know that it wasn’t your fault. In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this audiobook, you’ll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences. Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination. This audiobook is based on the author’s powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this audiobook, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop to the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You’ll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you’ll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion—pride."

Beverly Engel (Author), Kate Rudd (Narrator)

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The Power of Apology: Healing Steps to Transform All Your Relationships

"'Fresh and useful . . . excellent practical advice . . . thorough and lucid . . . will be welcomed by many who have struggled to ask forgiveness and to forgive.' -Publishers Weekly A finalist in the Books for a Better Life Awards competition! Discover the healing power of apology and put its magic to work in your life Do you have a difficult time apologizing or are you involved with someone who does? Do you tend to overapologize and appear weak in others' eyes? Do you want to reconcile with someone but feel they owe you an apology first? Do you need to apologize or make amends to someone but don't know how to go about it? In this inspiring book from internationally acclaimed therapist and self-improvement author Beverly Engel, you will learn why some people have difficulty apologizing while others tend to overapologize. You'll learn how to give a meaningful apology, how to ask for one, and how to receive one. From making amends with those you have hurt to dealing with someone who refuses to apologize to teaching children responsibility and empathy, this life-changing book shows you how to bring a healing new element of renewal into every relationship in your life. 'Beverly Engel has eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its role in reconciliation.' -Rabbi Charles A. Klein, author of How to Forgive When You Can't Forget: Healing Our Personal Relationships 'Readers of this wise and lucid guide to the neglected art of authentic apology will acquire a powerful tool to help repair relationships with others and with themselves.' -Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., author of Forgiving and Not Forgiving: A New Approach to Resolving Intimate Betrayal 'An engaging and in-depth book on a subject that has rarely been addressed so intelligently and thoroughly. Ms. Engel offers the reader specific suggestions that can help you improve all your relationships.' -Steven Farmer, M.F.T., author of Adult Children of Abusive Parents"

Beverly Engel (Author), Kate Reading (Narrator)

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