"Do you always feel the need to apologise in your relationship? Does it make you anxious?
Are you led to believe that you’re crazy?
Do you know someone who has the power to make you feel guilty, trapped and confused?
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that occurs in abusive relationships. It’s the act of manipulating a person by forcing them to question their thoughts, memories, and the events that occur around them. A victim of gaslighting can be pushed so far that they question their own sanity.
Gaslighting can happen in many types of relationship, including those with bosses, friends and parents; but probably the most devastating form of gaslighting is when it occurs in a relationship between a couple.
Have you been led to believe that you’re crazy by someone who is, in fact, crazy?
My clients often ask me:
◆ What is it that turns people into gaslighters?
◆ What is a gaslighter personality?
◆ Why does a narcissist gaslight?
◆ What are some common gaslighting techniques?
◆ What are some steps you can take if you are being gaslighted?
◆ How do you know if you are a victim of emotional abuse by gaslighting?
◆ How do you deal with a gaslighter?
◆ How should I respond a gaslighter’s mind games?
◆ Can I get out of this nightmare?
◆ How can I find myself again?
◆ How can I recover after years of power games, control and manipulation?
The topics and concepts described in this book are functional and practical and will have a direct impact on your life, both in romantic and non-romantic relationships. You don't need to be an expert on the subject; just take a deep breath, relax that knot in your stomach and grab this book!"
"Do you feel disconnected with your partner?Do you feel coldness and distance within your relationship that is difficult to explain?Does their hot & cold attitude confuse you, leaving you feeling that you can't communicate your needs?Are you worried about drifting apart?
♥ This collection 2 books in 1 includes:
◆ Dismissive Avoidant Attachment: the dismissive avoidant sees themselves as some sort of lone wolf. They feel that they don’t need anyone and that nobody needs them. They can drift in and out of everyone’s lives without causing any sort of emotional havoc and they like that lack of accountability or obligation.
They may also shy away when you open up to them. Feeling close can feel like a danger zone and so they avoid it.
◆ Fearful Avoidant Attachment: People who develop a fearful avoidant attachment style often desire closeness. They seek intimacy from partners. However, they may be unable to achieve the deep connection that they long for.
The reason for this is because their attachment experiences have taught them to be fearful of intimacy. In some cases, their personality leads them to reject close bonds. This can spur a cycle of rocky relationships and extreme emotional highs and lows.
The good news is that you can change the attachment style. It may take time, work and a great deal of understanding from people in life. However, it is possible to build intimate, secure relationships that fulfil and help you to feel safe.Understanding and managing the wounds of attachment is the best gift that you can give to your relationship."
"Do you struggle to set healthy boundaries?
Do you feel stuck in situations in which you say yes, but would really like to say no?
Would you like to communicate your needs, but feel that you can't and end up putting yourself last?
I know how easy it is to fall back into the habit of putting your own needs and feelings last.
Maybe you start out with the best intentions to set boundaries. You plan and think about what would be right. Yet, when it’s time to take action, you tell yourself: “It’s not that bad…” and then end up giving in to a request that doesn’t feel right for you.
Specifically, you will learn about:
◆ Being aware, in the moment, that there is a boundaries issue.
◆ The most important boundary to set first.
◆ Setting boundaries without anger, blaming, excuses or apologies.
◆ Saying no without fear of being abandoned and alone.
◆ Creating time and space for your own self.
◆ Developing the skills to set boundaries with kindness and compassion.
◆ How healthy boundaries help us to connect well with others.
And much more!
It doesn’t matter if you’ve taken other courses or just read my books, or if you’re brand new to the world of personal growth. No matter where you are now, this book provides the structure, guidance and support to create powerful, sustainable changes to the way that you handle boundaries.
If you want a straightforward, step-by-step process that you can use to be consistent with your boundaries, to feel less guilt, frustration or fear; If you want to finally know what you need and how to ask for it in a way that works for you, then the Healthy Boundaries survival-course is for you."
"Do you feel disconnected with your partner?Does their hot & cold attitude confuse you, leaving you feeling that you can't communicate your needs?Are you worried about drifting apart?
Attachment styles are the way that we connect with other people. They are generally developed by infants and further refined by children, adolescents and adults.
A person with a fearful avoidant attachment lives in an ambivalent state of being, afraid of being both too close to or too distant from others.
People with fearful avoidant attachment may show signs of:
◆ Stormy, highly emotional relationships.
◆ Conflicting feelings about relationships (desiring a romantic relationship and being fearful of being hurt or left by a significant other).
◆ A tendency to seek out faults in partners or friends so that they can create an excuse to leave a relationship.
◆ A fear or anxiety about being inadequate for a partner or relationship.
◆ Withdrawing from relationships when things get intimate or emotional.
They attempt to keep their feelings at bay but are unable to; they can’t just avoid their anxiety or run away from their feelings.
If you do not intervene immediately, those who have a relationship with a fearful avoidant person will end up having to settle for a relationship made up of distances, misunderstandings and conflicts until the relationship is totally broken. Everything that you have built together will be lost forever.
Understanding and managing the wounds of attachment is the best gift that you can give to your relationship."
"Do you feel disconnected with your partner?Do you feel coldness and distance within your relationship that is difficult to explain?Are you worried about drifting apart?
Attachment styles are the way in which we connect with other people. They are generally developed by infants and further refined by children, adolescents and adults.
Often, the dismissive avoidant sees themselves as some sort of lone wolf. They feel that they don’t need anyone and that nobody needs them. They can drift in and out of everyone’s lives without causing any sort of emotional havoc and they like that lack of accountability or obligation.
They may also shy away when you open up to them. Feeling close can feel like a danger zone and so they avoid it.
They value independence and ultimately fear that they will be enmeshed; the idea that a relationship will swallow them up.
If you believe that a loved one has this style of attachment, understanding where the instincts come from may also help you to respond to them.
People with dismissive avoidant attachment may show signs of:
Avoidance of eye contact.
Avoidance of physical touch.
Rarely, or even never, asking for help.
Such feelings, if experienced too often or too intensely, may ultimately make a relationship non-sustainable.
The good news is that you can change the attachment style. It may take time, work and a great deal of understanding from people in life. However, it is possible to build intimate, secure relationships that fulfil and help you to feel safe.
Understanding and managing the wounds of attachment is the best gift that you can give to your relationship."
"Are you struggling with your addiction to approval but are afraid of being excluded from your social circles?Would you like to communicate your needs, but feel that you can't and end up putting yourself last?Do you feel stuck in situations in which you say yes, but would really like to say no?Why is that? Why do we think saying ‘no’ is so bad? Why do we have such feelings of guilt?
If you have ever spent time with a toddler, you’ll know this inability to say ‘no’ is not a problem we’re born with! We spend our entire childhood hearing such things as ‘do as you’re told’, and ‘be good’.
You will no longer get stuck in old, unhealthy patterns of putting yourself last, feeling resentful about saying yes when you mean no, or being afraid to speak up about your needs.
Specifically, you will learn how to:
★ Say no without making explanations or excuses.
★ Say no when you know you could help, but it isn’t the right thing for you.
★ Say no when someone really wants something you don’t want to do.
★ Say no and worry less about being liked or seeking approval.
★ Say no without getting lost in fear, guilt, or feelings of selfishness.
★ Say no with kindness and compassion.
★ Say yes to time and space for your own priorities.
And much more...
If you ever feel drained and exhausted, tired from keeping up with expectations and living with the sense of frustration that no one sees your needs and the people in your life just won't change, then no matter where you are now, this survival-course provides the structure, guidance, and support to create powerful, sustainable changes to the way you handle boundaries and cease to be a people pleaser."
