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Here is my husband.
Here is my boyfriend.
Here I am.
In the early hours of dawn in Amsterdam, Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend's bed. She gets dressed, slips away with a kiss and cycles home, where she is welcomed into the arms of her husband, whose contentment is mellow alongside her own. There isn't a glimmer of shame, deception or guilt, only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible - even if it wasn't always this easy.
You might have questions. Whose idea was it? What are the rules? Are you ever jealous? In this memoir, Deepa offers her answers openly and tenderly, as she explores the truth to questions of her own. Can I ask for what I want, and still honour the life I have chosen? Do I deserve it? Is it worth it?
Unexpectedly relatable and joyfully vibrant, this is one woman's story of discovering her own desires and how to liberate them, of shifting identities from mother to lover and back again, and of finding the courage to ask for the marriage she wanted, beyond the marriage she had.
One question at a time.
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| ISBN: | 9780241698396 |
| Publication date: | 1st May 2025 |
| Author: | Deepa Paul |
| Publisher: | Viking an imprint of Penguin Books Ltd |
| Format: | Hardback |
| Pagination: | 368 pages |
| Primary Genre | Biographies & Autobiographies |
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Here is my husband.
Here is my boyfriend.
Here I am.
In the early hours of dawn in Amsterdam, Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend's bed. She gets dressed, slips away with a kiss and cycles home, where she is welcomed into the arms of her husband, whose contentment is mellow alongside her own. There isn't a glimmer of shame, deception or guilt, only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible - even if it wasn't always this easy.
You might have questions. Whose idea was it? What are the rules? Are you ever jealous? In this memoir, Deepa offers her answers openly and tenderly, as she explores the truth to questions of her own. Can I ask for what I want, and still honour the life I have chosen? Do I deserve it? Is it worth it?
Unexpectedly relatable and joyfully vibrant, this is one woman's story of discovering her own desires and how to liberate them, of shifting identities from mother to lover and back again, and of finding the courage to ask for the marriage she wanted, beyond the marriage she had.
One question at a time.
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Ask Me How It Works features in the following genres: Biographies & Autobiographies, Lifestyle, Hobbies and Leisure, Non-monogamy / Polyamorous relationships, Social groups: alternative lifestyles, Relationships and families: advice and issues, Memoirs
Ask Me How It Works is available in Paperback, Hardback
Ask Me How It Works was written by Deepa Paul and published by Viking an imprint of Penguin Books Ltd
Ask Me How It Works has 368 pages
£17.09
