This book is, in a word, comprehensive and it's a great resource for everyone no matter what your age.
This book allows for a frank discussion about sex, with ways to normalise the conversation, tips for approaching an open discussion with a partner and suggestions about different things that can impact your libido. This is an interesting, honest and open resource that can help you become more confident about your sex life at whatever age while also addressing issues, or potential hurdles that affect you as you get older, and aren't always included in discussions about sex through other outlets. This book is set out very clearly in chapters with headings acting as bullet point (for example the solutions for age-related sex problems) before then going into more detail about the suggestion to help you understand how, for example, getting more sleep will help to boost your libido. Most of the discussions about sex are usually from a "feminist" or "what women should feel comfortable asking for" perspective. This is included in the book, but it also takes time to look at the obstacles that ageing can put in the way of men, including the effects of health problems such as prostate cancer and anxiety or "performance" anxiety. This book is, in a word, comprehensive. Whether you're older and looking for assistance, support or maybe a bit of an explanation about what's happening to you body, or you're not over 50 yet but want to know what to expect and put the right behaviour patterns in place as a good foundation for your relationship (with your partner and with your own body) as you get older.
Well what a great start to 2020 the 70s Joy of Sex for today and for the 50s and over.
Just how many of us think that sex will never be as great now as when we were younger - the fear we are not good enough now in our older bodies, but wow 50 is a great age and why not? This is apt for 60 onwards too. We have more life skills and although pre and post-menopausal we can still have great (or greater sex).
The chapter getting ready for the ride of your life I thought wow not past it and what a great trip into the 20s.
The author has researched the subject well, using real-life case studies and empowering us to realise that the sex we had when we were younger was different. As we get older we do not have the same embarrassment so sex toys, talking about sex and realising orgasms don't always come naturally is a good thing.
I found this shocking - A study of 1200 adults by Durex (2019). Researchers found nearly three-quarters of women in the UK (73 per cent) experience sexual discomfort during intercourse—and 24 per cent ask their partner to hurry up because of pain. Only 57 per cent of the male participants realised this was happening. We need to talk, we need to tell the partner what we feel is good and vice versa.
There is so much good advice, humour is thrown into the mix and a great message. So get out there enjoy sex again (be safe) and you will discover the missing part of the jigsaw.
This is an important book that everyone over 50, whether in a relationship or not, should read.
'Great Sex starts at 50 How to age-proof your Libido' is TV presenter and newspaper columnist Tracey Cox's 17th book, focussing on her specialist subjects of dating, sex and relationships. It offers great practical information and sound advice, if you'll pardon the innuendo, in a hands-on guide to a more fulfilling and healthier life. Like all self-help manuals, the reader can be selective and take from it what suits their own relationship or lack of one.
I was a little put off by the swear words used at the start of the book, as I felt their use did nothing to enhance the tone of an otherwise very thoroughly researched and detailed study of sex in later life. I was soon reassured though that this wasn't going to be a feature of the work and, without agreeing with everything the author writes, I was able to concentrate on the very relevant and welcome messages it contains.
The author offers great words of wisdom about things most over 50s are likely to experience...menopause and erectile dysfunction, plus some they might not, such as major surgery, affairs, sexless relationships and being single. The '50 things you only know after 50' towards the end of book, is a comprehensive list of her main points, followed by an extensive list of books, websites and podcasts for further study.
I was really impressed by this book, it reinforced things I think I already knew but put them in a wider context. The most important for me were the need for honest communication between partners, the devastating effect to a man of no longer being able to sustain an erection and the fact that women get bored with one partner more quickly than men and are more likely to be pansexual. This is an important book that everyone over 50, whether in a relationship or not, should read.