There are seven common reasons why relationships fail.
An expert on midlife, and now relationships, Miranda Sawyer outlines these common reasons, using anecdotal and personal evidence to help readers eschew the pitfalls of a partnered life.
Did you know that one in ten people argue with their partner about finances at least once a fortnight?
The most obvious argument is centred around a lack of money. Statistically, it’s unlikely that both partners will be paid exactly the same amount, therefore is it really fair to go Dutch and split finances equally?
Money is just one of seven contentious issues which can lead to a relationship going pear-shaped. The other six reasons remain to be read.
‘The best kind of book: the one you didn’t know you were craving until it appeared . . . self-interrogative, intricately perceptive. I absolutely inhaled it’ JIA TOLENTINO
‘A very richly interesting exploration of a complex subject. Begoña Gómez Urzaiz tells the stories with such intelligence and wit and generosity’ TESSA HADLEY
Ingrid Bergman, Muriel Spark, Maria Montessori . . . what do these women have in common?
During the pandemic, trapped at home with young children and struggling to find creative space to write, journalist Begoña Gómez Urzaiz became fixated on artistic women who were able to overcome both society’s judgement and their own maternal instincts in order to leave their children. More than anything, she was fascinated by her own prejudice towards these women, so clearly tied up in a much wider cultural bias.
Using famous examples including Doris Lessing, fictional ones such as Anna Karenina, and interrogating modern trends like Momfluencers, Begoña reveals what our judgement of these women tells us about our judgement of all women.
‘The best book I've read on the implications of motherhood and its opposites after Sheila Heti's Motherhood’ CLAUDIA DURASTANTI
Are you finding that marriage isn't quite what you expected it to be? Despite starting off happy and in love, do you sometimes find yourself disappointed because the joyful moments you anticipated are now few and far between?
It's time to discover the joyful, satisfying marriage you and your spouse always hoped for.
Teacher, author, and creator of 'Living the Sweet Wife' Chelsea Damon has helped thousands of couples who felt they were at the end of their rope--plus, she's been there herself. In I Thought This Would Make Me Happy, she gives you the tools you need to fight less, communicate more, and ultimately transform your marriage. With time-tested advice, practical tips, and biblical truths, she will help you:
- Forgive quickly and stop the cycle of blame in your marriage to restore harmony
- Understand where issues like anger, bitterness, and resentment arise and how to step away from destructive patterns
- Shift focus away from yourself and back to the purpose to which God has called you
- Seek support from those who will encourage you to seek Christ in your marriage
With these helpful and practical principles, love, and faith in the God who brought you together, you and your spouse can find your way to a deeply satisfying marriage that is full of joy and centered on the wonderful plans God has for you.
Rediscover hope in the hardest seasons and embrace abundant life today in this 90-day devotional from Sarah Grace Hallas. In This Is Not Forever, daily encounter God's promises and His presence-even when life doesn't go the way you planned-and journey with Him to a richer, more lasting, and confident faith.
Where do you go when it all falls apart? What do you cling to when your foundations are tested and it feels like hard times will never end? When Sarah's life hit rock bottom, she had to reckon with who God really was in her life and what her future would be. As Sarah sought Him in the mess, she discovered that hard seasons don't last forever and that the hope-filled, abundant life she was missing was available through a good and faithful God who had been with her all along.
In this honest, hope-filled devotional, Sarah shares 90 heartfelt devotions to bring you encouragement when you need:
- To encounter God in the mess
- Renewed faith amid trials and hardship
- Comfort when your heart is breaking
- Confidence in God's goodness and faithfulness
- Compassion when you doubt and don't have all the answers
You can have confidence in God's eternal promises, and His faithfulness is greater than any temporary challenge you find yourself in. Discover the hope that leads to abundant life in this beautiful and encouraging devotional. With God, there is a brighter future ahead that is more than you could ever imagine.
Relationships everywhere are in crisis due to our inability to talk about 'difference' without polarizing. Since objection to difference is the core human problem, we need a skill that helps us connect beyond difference. That's just what New York Times bestselling authors Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt offer in their new book: How To Talk With Anyone About Anything. They call it the Safe Conversations Dialogue process, which everyone can learn and teach, that moves all relationships from danger to safety, making connecting possible.
For centuries, most of us humans have talked to others in monologues, believing that the world is the way we see it, that what we say about it is the 'truth' and we have assumed that everyone sees it 'our' way. If they do not, we experience tension and conflict on many levels. On the other hand, few of us have ever listened to others while they are talking and tried to see the world from their point of view while retaining our own perspective. Instead of listening to understand and collaborate about our differences, we tend to replace their perspective with our own. This results in polarization, not only in our personal lives and work environments, but also in the political and religious arenas we inhabit. This has led to anxiety, frustration, anger, violence, and war. Clearly, the world needs a new way to talk that transcends difference and leads to collaboration, co-creation, and cooperation.
Getting the Love You Want, teach that the practice of Safe Conversations Dialogue impacts the 'physics of the Space Between.' Here is what they mean:
- All of us live in and are a part of an energy field in which everything everywhere is connecting with everything everywhere. This energy field occupies the Space-Between us.
- When there is safety in the energy field that occupies the Space-Between us, we can connect.
- When there is anxiety in the Space Between, we defend ourselves. We cannot connect but tend to polarize.
- Anyone, if they decide to, can restore safety in the Space Between by using a structure conversation skill called the Safe Conversations Dialogue.
In How to Talk with Anyone about Anything, Harville and Helen share the wisdom of the Safe Conversations process and the four structured and teachable skills that create safety and connection:
- Dialogue: Dialogue is two or more people taking turns talking and listening. Monologue is one person talking and expecting everyone else to listen. When two or more people shift from Monologue to Dialogue, they can transform any relationship from conflict to safety, connection and collaboration.
- Zero Negativity: Negativity disrupts safety and is non-negotiable for safe and thriving relationships. When Dialogue is practiced with Zero Negativity, criticism about what one does not have is replaced with a positive request for what one wants. This transforms conflict into safety and connecting.
- Empathy: Empathy is the capacity to experience or imagine how another person has gone through life. When Dialogue is practiced with empathy, one can more easily accept the different perspective of another person and maintain one's own perspective without polarizing.
- Affirmation: Affirmation is valuing another person because they exist rather than for what they have done for you. When Dialogue includes affirmation, the other person experiences themselves as human rather than as an 'object' that is valued because of what they do.
How to Talk with Anyone about Anything offers the keys to unlocking your ability to connect with others in a new and profoundly different way. And, as more of us hone that ability, together, we can bring about a fundamental shift in society away from our current focus on the 'self' and polarization about difference towards safety and true connection that includes total personal freedom, universal equality, radical inclusion, and celebration of diversity-a society in which we all collaborate with each other without surrendering our differences, co-create with each other about new solutions and cooperate with other to put them into practice. Then we will all live in the world of our dreams.
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Powerful institutions, from schools to tech and social media companies, create breeding grounds for isolation by failing to invest in relational work. This obstacle stands in the way of our fight for racial equity, economic justice, and climate resilience.
In Relationality, leading asexuality and relationship activist David Jay brings clarity to the crisis with a fresh perspective that expands upon the fundamental idea that all entities in the universe are connected. Jay draws from a range of vivid personal experiences, including his time spent helping tech workers and policymakers reform social media.
This book is for people who believe in the power of relationships and want to see increased investment in relational work. Its scientifically grounded framework will help readers foster conversations about relational work, establish conditions for relationships to thrive, and quantify the impact of them.
Equipping professionals and activists involved in nonprofit, political, and other types of relational work with the knowledge they need to fight for and utilize resources, Relationality shares valuable insight on:
- The history of why institutions fail to invest in relationships
- Reimagining ROI calculations to account for relational work
- Using tools of prediction and emergence theory to build communities
- How stories and data about relationships can help us direct resources toward relational work
- Relational economics and the redistribution of wealth
With isolation and loneliness on the rise in a post-lockdown world, Relationality offers a roadmap to nourish our connections toward a better, more liberated world-personally, organizationally, and in community.
A much-needed guide to dating--from apps to hooking up, sex, long-term relationships and more--from disabled essayist and author Jessica Slice and bioethicist Caroline Cupp.
Disabled people date, have casual sex, marry, and parent. Yet our romantic lives are conspicuously absent from the media and cultural conversation. Sexual education does not typically address the specific information needed by disabled students. Mainstream dating apps fail to include disability as an aspect of one's identity alongside race, ethnicity, gender identity, and sexual orientation. The few underutilized disability-focused apps are paternalistic and unappealing. Bestselling dating books do not address disability, and the few relationship books marketed to disabled people focus on the mechanics of sex rather than the complex interactions that create the conditions for it.
In Dateable, disabled authors Jessica Slice Caroline Cupp team up to address the serious gap in the dating space. Dateable is the first book on disabled dating and relationships; it's a dating guide made especially for disabled and chronically ill people, that also calls in nondisabled readers. Jessica and Caroline take on everything from rom-com representation and dating apps to sex and breakups with a strong narrative underpinning and down-to-earth advice. The book is as much a practical tool as it is an empowering guide.
Terrell and Jarius' are a beautiful couple you see online every day. They met during their freshman year of college at a haunted house, and soon realized they could not live without each other. Soon, the couple became famous for sharing their love story via social media and now, they live and work together as content creators, activists, and social media stars. Before these gorgeous people became highly sought-after brand ambassadors, they kept their whole relationship a secret. Now as major Influencers in the LGBTQ+ space, they are writing a book to show all the major obstacles that have allowed them to achieve their dream life today. Through prejudice, marriage, disappointments, loss, secrecy, parenthood, and adversity, the couple shows that despite what you think, love is what makes all their dreams come true.
Love Out Loud shares the couple's love through their private moments of embracing who they are as individuals, as a couple, and as a family unit, and truly how beautiful those moments can be. Love Out Loud is about love, relationships, and surviving through storms together no matter what is thrown at you. The two men share the life they have dreamed about and how they achieved it despite societal pressures around them. Through personal anecdotes, the two offer the powerful lessons that they only could have learned on their distinct as gay, black men, they have tremendous empathy that comes across on screen that translates to nuclear and alternative families alike.